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運動對性生活的10種價值
1、運動能使你為自己的身體健康和體形健美感到自豪，同時會使你的愛人不受約束並使其得到滿足。你同愛人就會把各自更強烈的 情愛傾注給對方。
2、運動能減輕精神壓力，使你感到比較放鬆並能夠在性交時表現出你的熱情。
3、運動能使你重新喚起已經消沉了的身體，發現自己還是一個有性能力的人。
4、運動能使性激素、氧氣和營養物的供給量增加，有利於強健性愛持久力。
5、運動能增加睪丸素水平，它是促進性慾的激素。
6、運動能使體內產生內啡呔，有助於消除憂鬱，改善情緒，增進性興奮，可激發性慾，防止性生活缺乏快感。
7、運動能使高密度脂蛋白膽固醇水平升高，有助於血脈暢通，血流加速，會使陰莖勃起的能力增強。
8、運動能使你的腰腹部肌肉強健有力，可導致性交時不感到疲勞，並且通過不同作愛體式以增進你們夫妻之間的情感交流，豐富性 生活。
9、運動能使骨盆肌、陰道區域的全部肌肉收縮，有助於骨血管分佈的改善、充血量加大，血流速度加快，從而會引起陰道區隆起， 血流量越大，觸覺越敏感，盆肌血管分佈的增加會使性交時產生潤滑並提高性交的質量。
10、運動能使你性交時的性感區肌肉更有力。
Reaction stage
Male ejaculation is a climax of the performance, they are not necessarily represent the climax, for example, the flow in the elderly is no climax at all on the fine. Male and female sexual climax just reflex. In general, reactions can be divided into four periods, "excitement, plateau, orgasm phase, regression phase" four. Have a male, for example as follows:
1 exciting period ... ... ... ... (a few minutes - hours)
2 See color spur of the moment, physical, psychological, stimulated the beginning.
3 blood flow to the sponge body. Therefore, the penis will erect. Testicles are also up.
4 duration (or: plateau, flat period) ... ... (-3 minutes 30 seconds)
5 with the "excitement" division it's hard. With continued stimulation of the general,
6 gradually strengthen the physiological excitement, before ejaculation are called to "plateau period (duration, flat period)"
7. Urethral glands secrete a fluid to the urethra ball.
8 high tide - the boys call out, shoop, shoop, ejaculation ... (3 seconds -10 seconds)
9 will produce a rhythmic genital rhythm and ejaculation.
10. Regression period (reply period) - weak, weak men ... vibration ... (10 minutes - 15 minutes)
11 the penis will return to resume ever, testes also falls.
Therefore, men <orgasm (referring to ejaculation)> However, muscle contraction 3-5 times, spend 3-10 seconds too! !
In fact, the reaction zone is divided into four stages, but in order to facilitate recognition and understanding only. In fact, it is consistent Tightlock's. Experienced a sexual response cycle time will actually short, mostly in less than one hour.
Some people may think that sex is innate instinct, naturally it will, why ignore it several times, to hell with the phenomenon called excitement or orgasm? However, for many sexual dysfunction, unsatisfactory sex life of men and women, this knowledge is very important.
Many premature ejaculation (also known as premature ejaculation) friends, and often can not really understand what the experience of orgasm, ejaculation, which they only know one thing, then over. The so-called "two or three to clean yo" is the self-deprecating style joke, if these friends can understand the physiological responses of various rhythm and changes to self-request, carefully, one of the mood, will help to self-control and self-confidence . At the same time, the knowledge about reactions can know ourselves and with each other, complement each other to achieve a wonderful climax state.
The magical effect of sex
This is a generally accepted and has been confirmed the conclusions of sex can promote good health, have a happy sex life of women more than single or celibate women know how to have self-confidence and more to reduce stress; their appearance seems to have become more healthy, vibrant .
Not only that, but also treatment of sexual ills - whether heart problems or diseases. Experts in the field of medicine and of that long-term, stable and satisfying sex life can help improve blood circulation, and enhance the body's immune system to overcome the pain. It turned out that sex can make you enjoy the moment in addition to the fun of it but also have many benefits.
■ enhance your resistance
Experts said that our body's immune system function because of their sexual stimulation greatly increased. When we love with their intimate kiss, hug as if their massage the endocrine system, our body will have a dumb sense of this soft chemical reaction in the body's immune system will resonate within the increase in the number of white blood cells.
University of Pittsburgh told the women to do breast cancer research, detection of breast cancer patients with a normal sex life if it continues, the body of the cell - a cancer of antibody inhibition, or sex than single women are not more happy.
Not to say that one day can make a woman orgasm is not invasion of diseases. But Kinsey center confirmed: moderate resistance to vent, to maintain physical and mental health is a prerequisite. Studies have shown that a happy sex life will improve immune system function, reduce the urinary system diseases, or even give you a stronger pain tolerance.
■ analgesic
Many people have such an experience, in the process of sex on the number of less serious physical pain may unknowingly be forgotten in the excitement of completely disappeared, and some people even when they wake up the next morning will feel the pain of the invasion.
Why so? Because when the orgasm comes, will release the nervous system Duofen (enkephalins) - the body's natural painkillers, its efficacy is stronger than morphine. In the orgasm comes, Duofen will increase, causing the proliferation of anti-bacterial immune system cells. Boost the immune system to reduce pain. With a "capacity of the treatment," said sex education expert Leticia Shaq, at least one orgasm can make people forget the pain within 6 hours, whether she has arthritis, sprains, or other local pain. Great pleasure sex painful feeling overwhelmed, the transfer of the attention, and physical and mental relaxation after sex comfortable. And then after a night of sleep can actually make you temporarily forget the pain, while the body also play a self-healing capabilities.
Although this is incredible, but it is a reality, Rutgers University study found that the treatment of sex and orgasm headache or pain in other parts of the body has a certain role, and its efficacy is equivalent to two aspirin. The researchers also pointed out that all the human organs are "not the back", and many use it to play its function, they are able to activate the vaginal tissue. Especially after menopause, because estrogen causes a decrease in symptoms such as frequent urination, pain during intercourse and so be avoided because of sex.
Of course, if you want pain relief, then. Eating painkillers or aspirin can also achieve the goal, but the drugs can bring as sex as the great spiritual and physical pleasure.
■ your sleeping pills
A certain amount of exercise coupled with the height of irreplaceable pleasure, it is indeed able to relax, Enron eyes. The satisfaction of the height of the blood and lymphatic system can be balanced. It can stop the activity of brain cells a few hours to let the body get enough rest.
■ help you eliminate stress, overcome depression
As we all know, the pressure lead to the physical discomfort of various conditions, such as: tension headaches, migraine headaches, stomach problems, chronic fatigue, neck pain, and so on. Many experts recommend pressure treated muscle relaxation exercises to do to troubleshoot the body stiffness and tension, pressure can prevent symptoms caused by equipment types.
Emotional instability or mental setbacks often cause pain in various parts of the body, especially the victims, forced to suppress the hearts of the unhappy, the more will lead to physical problems, in fact, these problems are closely related with the trouble in your heart.
Relax muscles and even sex is a good way to nerves. "All the symptoms caused by stress, are available through a satisfying love and be relief." Sexology expert Justin. Wimmer said. Wonderful, accelerate blood circulation and Duofen. What minor ailments minor illnesses do not become a problem.
After all, sex is certainly not a cure-all, but it does have the benefits of drugs can not be replaced. At least good sex make you healthy, working your heart, love, gluey, long security self-confidence.
如何掌握性生活的頻度
對性生活人們有一種矛盾心理，既想盡可能多地體驗性生活的快樂，又擔心性生活過度對身體造成不良影響。
傳統文化中對房勞所傷、色慾傷精等問題非常重視，有的甚至提出「避色如避仇」，這有其積極的一面，但也有不利的一面。性生活 如同其他活動一樣，也講究中庸適度，太過、不及均為殃。至於何度為適，與個人體質、年齡、種族、情緒、社會文化背景、季節等有關 。
具體到每個人，衡量性生活是否適度的標準，以第二天精神飽滿、身心愉快、不出現週身倦怠、精力不集中及腰膝酸軟的症狀為準。 年齡與性生活頻度，一般情況是30歲以前的青年人每星期2—4次，30—40歲每週1—2次，40—50歲每週1次，50—60 歲，每3—4周1—2次，60歲以上每4周1—2次。
人們要注意的是不要單純追求性交的次數，同時還要力求使每次性交都要達到完美的程度，一次完美的性交比兩次不完美的性交更令 人滿足。
狂野呻吟背後
男性作愛時最關心之事莫過於女方是否有反應，但是雙方步入紅毯後，男人即露出本來面目，只要自己射精後，便轉身呼呼大睡，全 然不理會對方反應如何，有否達到高潮。至於戀愛中之情侶，男人則不敢如此對待女友。
尤其雙方陷入違背人倫的戀愛中，即男女偷情，男性對於女性之反應更是耿耿於懷，只想一心討好她。其中也有些男人甚至神經質： 「奇怪，最近她為何不起勁，老是無高潮症狀發生，是不是我已不中用了？」
話又說回來，迄今為止，女方僅不過喊「啊」、「嗯」等叫喊聲，突然有一日，像母獅大吼出來，不知諸君的感受如何？或許有人會 認為：
「每日努力幹活，居然能讓女方如野獸女王般瘋狂不已，對男人而言誠然是無比之榮幸，也是最大欣慰。」
男人有這種成就感自是難免，不過首先要認清究竟是因自己的功夫好而令女方如此狂野，還是因女方的生理狀態產生變化所致。
女性敏感度遽然提高，並非意味著男人性技巧高超，敏感度突然敏銳事有蹊蹺，不可全然視為好徵兆。
一般而言，受孕初期女人之敏感度有異常提高之現象，每個男人務必認識此點。
若在此時觸摸女方的乳房，平常是毫無反應的，此時卻會覺得相當興奮；或是愛撫腋下到乳房之外輪處，女方會興奮的往上跳。
另外一項明顯的危險信號就是女人的愛液大量釋出。受孕初期，不僅乳房敏感性會增加，下體的愛液份量也會大增，因此大大提高了 性交的敏感度。
君不見有男人得意自滿，逢人便吹噓：
「我終於把那女人訓練得知道如何體會高潮之快感，真是孺子可教也！」
其實，不久之將來，他們就會面臨：
「我有話要告訴你，假如我懷孕的話，可不可以把小孩生下來？」
屆時，你想逃都來不及哩！
兩情相悅，氣味相投
人們很早已發現許多動物、昆蟲是靠特殊的氣味來吸引異性並且調節交配期的。麝香、靈貓香是著名的香料，幾乎是所有浪漫香馨、 春情蕩漾香水的必有配料。這兩種香料分別取自麝和靈貓，它們自身的主要作用就是吸引雌性同伴。現代仿生學運用特殊氣味吸引方法來 誘捕和殺滅許多有害的昆蟲，也取得可喜成果，生物學界關於兩性氣味的研究方興未艾。如果人幾天不洗澡，在炎熱的夏天，人體的氣味 總是令人不愉快的，甚至可以說令周圍的大多數人，也包括自我感到厭煩。但人類同樣存在兩情相悅時氣味相投的生物學現象。仔細觀察 周圍會發現，許多人在大汗淋漓、汗臭濃烈時，她的他或他的她卻滿不在乎緊緊地依偎在一起，有的甚至貪婪地吮吸這種氣味，這除了心 理和感情的融洽之外，純生物學的因素也在起著奇妙的作用。最新研究顯示，人體都有各種特殊的氣味，而且這種氣味在不同的場合和情 景中是變化的。相愛的男女會很專一地嗅著這種特殊的氣味，並且這種氣味會沁人心脾，激起無限柔情，他們會在眾多的氣味中輕鬆地辨 出屬於自己的、特殊的、專屬的，在旁人看來是"臭味"的氣味。兩情相悅，氣味相投是性愛的一種奧義。夫妻雙方保持良好的衛生，在 各自特有的體味上營造更為愉快的氣味氛圍，無疑是生活中更高層次的美好享受。
Menopause sex
Menopausal women's reproductive ability gradually to stop the process. Menopause is the end of the reproductive capacity of the signal, but this does not mean that women's sexual demands and the ability to terminate the reaction. Conversely, when women realize that they are about to enter menopause or after menopause, due to no longer worried about pregnancy problems, increase sexual desire may occur. Of course, there are significant individual differences. Newgart en investigation 100 patients 20-65 years old women approach menopause. When asked about "women's sexual desire in menopausal climax is reached", the answer is no for the most people most of the young, that is, pre-menopausal women. Only 4% of women feel the loss of fertility, menopause is the worst thing, because it makes women lose the woman's unique capabilities. Some deep religious belief that postmenopausal women can not birth their own, then the requirements and nature of sexual desire is considered dirty, evil things. This situation exists only in certain limited areas and among ethnic. Because most women do not stop the arrival of menopause sexual activity, nor because of the emergence of menopause affect sexual behavior. Since menopause is a long time course, at different times of the women of the requirements can be slightly different. Menopause, but also consider the issue of contraception, there is also worried about pregnancy shameful tension. Some of menorrhagia, prolonged bleeding, women may affect the husband's sexual demands and taste. After menopause may be due to vaginal secretions and reduce the occurrence of folds and painful intercourse. Some women will take the initiative to ask the doctor the treatment to meet the requirements of both husband and wife and sexual harmony, but some women have refused the man's sexual demands, a quarrel menopause, emotional and not an important reason. As the influence of traditional Chinese women in particular, people talk about personal ashamed out of life issues, even if in trouble, but also had to put up their own. Asexual knowledge of many men, women's sexual demands and lack of understanding of sexual response, and even the existence of male chauvinism, sexual life, just to satisfy his personal desires, the woman does not observe, understand, not caring. Long-term suppression and satisfying sex life to a tired middle-aged women appear the phenomenon of sexual life, so to improve the quality of life is to stabilize the middle-aged couples marriage important issues.
Struggle with the world's growing population, the emergence of family members to reduce the family's situation changed in the past. That women in the production of traditional family values and so on change. Women should no longer see themselves as having children the tools, the whole issue of women in society and the research should be treated the same for reproductive research, to some extent even more important, as it relates to the stability of marriage of. Intimate marital relations are often based on close and harmonious relationship basis. Meet the marriage of the couple's meaning is self-evident.
給愛加點「巧克力」
談心。保持愉快的語調。不要相互對嚷和詛罵。要溫柔善意地只說那些有益的字眼。這是最重要、最能表示關愛的形式。
多在一起散步。一天花30分鐘鍛煉身體、交流感情、放鬆情緒、交換意見、構想目標、消除誤解。最好能手拉手。一起做一些新鮮 有趣的事情。去一家新餐館，吃一道風味不同的菜；聽一場音樂會，度一個獨特的假期；一起參加個學習、學些你們兩個都打算並盼望去 學的東西。
經常互送禮物。訂閱—份雜誌、買一本特別的書，洗個熱水澡並按摩，送一束鮮花，共享奇特的經歷，奉上喜愛的食品……
不要批評、譴責、抱怨。這是絕對不能幹的事。只去讚揚。要對彼此間的關愛表示感謝。在愛情和持久的夫妻關係中，從來都沒有消 極性字眼的位置！如果你做出了一個好的榜樣，你的愛人也會像你一樣把事情做好的。
允許你的伴侶對他(她)自己的生活負責。他(她)有權決定自己的現實和命運。尊重他(她)的選擇。你們兩個都可以按照自己的 方式去生活——和諧地生活；珍藏各自的相異點；盡最大努力使生活變得輕鬆，並給愛侶創造更多的樂趣。
不要有太強的佔有欲。做事時不要好像是你「佔有」你的伴侶；要對彼此的生活方式和個人興趣給予相互的支持與鼓勵；要心存感激 ，和睦相處。
珍惜你們共度的時光。「這可能是你們最後一次在一起了」——用這種態度看待你們在一起的時光，你們便能總是更加欣賞對方。沒 有理由遺憾。一起花時間做所有那些你們兩個都喜歡做的事情。
凡是可以令你們兩個感到愉快的事，都可以做。在私生活裡，對於你和愛侶之間所能做的事是沒有限制的——只要你們雙方都能受益 且贊同。
原諒與愛。就讓過去的事情過去吧。把握住今天，共同愉快地計劃未來……
杜絕無謂的爭吵。不管是在哪裡、在什麼時間、都不可爭吵。尤其是當你們吃飯睡覺時。每個人都有權擁有自己的觀點。尊重對方的 觀點、人生觀和對生活的看法。
讓笑容與笑聲常伴。這是長壽和健康的處方。對你自己和你的愛人不要太嚴肅。更多地面帶微笑和開懷大笑。記住，你們的微笑是給 予彼此真正的禮物。
每天相互溫柔地觸摸。擁抱、親吻、愛撫，這些都是表現愛與關懷的極好方式。我們都需要這些——比我們願意承認的還要需要！
保持健康的生活方式。良好的食物能夠促成良好的心態，這有助於建立更加富有意義的規律關係。多吃水果、蔬菜、谷物、高維生素 、低脂肪、低熱量的食品。多喝水，多休息，要讓你的食物保持清潔、有營養和比例平衡。
使你的家、車、廚房、廁所、房間都保持簡單整潔、乾淨有序。這有助於創造一個安寧的環境，使家庭生活更加睦、幸福。這真的很 有效果！著手做吧——現在就開始！
盡量裝扮。裝扮得要得體、整潔、乾淨，對你的外表感到自豪。你看上去，尤其是在公共場合看上去如何，也會增添你愛人的外在感 染力和選擇的機會！
對於經濟問題要相互通氣。要和愛人相互通告你們的經濟問題，如果你們家做生意，要相互通告利潤、損失、花費等等。你們的經濟 重心要放在一起，這會有助於你們建立在相互信任和苦樂同享基礎上的夫妻關係得到加強。
完全接受對方。確切地說，要接受對方的性格、習慣、脾氣。不要試圖改變對方的獨特之處。如果當他(她)想要改變時，允許他( 她)改變。這能促進持久的和睦。
不要吝嗇說「我愛你」。每天說一聲「我愛你」，甚至更多次，都有助干增進夫妻的相互認同感。
夫妻性生活中會有什麼感覺
在性生活進入高潮後，男子的精囊、前列腺、輸精管、射精管和尿道肌肉等都會發生節律性的收縮，於是精液噴射而出。女子由於陰 唇、陰蒂與陰道口受到摩擦，達到一定性刺激程度後，也會發生陰蒂跳和陰道、會陰部位肌肉節律性收縮。無論男女，在進入性生活高潮 期後，不但情緒激動，並且出現一種令人愉快與舒適的快感，只有這種快感的出現，才能達到性的滿足。
快感，是指情慾高潮降臨時大腦皮層的一種實際感覺。據動物實驗證明，大鼠的腦子裡面存在著一個「快感中樞」，當用電極刺激它 時，大鼠會出現愉快興奮的現象。同理，在人體大腦的某處，也在可能存在有類似的中樞，這是引起情慾高潮的重要部位。每當性刺激積 累達到足以射精程度時，性刺激也必然觸發到大腦中的「快感中樞」，於是快感油然而生。有人認為，這種一觸即發的快感產生，除了要 有「快感中樞」作保證外，還必須要有迅速的神經反射來完成。在男子體內有射精管，左右各一，僅僅2厘米長，開口在尿道，一旦射精 噴射精液時，由於開口小，所以顯得非常有力，而且開口處又聚集著許多神經叢，射精噴出的一瞬間，開口處的神經叢會從發生一系統反 射而引起快感。
性交快感既像征著一次性生活的結束，但由於快感的經驗，又可能成為今後性生活的慾念。
單次性交的標準時間
性交是男女兩性情愛與性愛發展到頂峰時兩者肉體的結合。因而性交時也受諸多因素的影響，如情緒、環境、年齡、距前次性交的時 間等。性醫學家對性交時間的長短進行了大量的調查研究，結果不盡相同。但一致認為：不論性交時間長短，只要雙方都感到高興和愉快 ，達到了性高潮就行。
當然，從性生理學的角度來研究，單次性交時間還是有一個正常參考值。一般而言，男子每次性交持續３∼１０分鐘為宜。在生理因 素方面，年齡對性交持續時間有一定的相關性。
Sex is the most wonderful dinner the poor
There is a saying rightly said: "Sex is a poor dinner." I did not eat dinner every day, like a person, go to bed hungry. As mountain pressing sexual prime, I, year after year ... ... no such experience is difficult to understand who I am that feeling. I think so: of the decision of marital quality.
For living things, life is ordinary and trivial, and the average family is not the cause, monetary fluctuations, so the likelihood of marriage depends on the nature of the changes in quality. Hear on television, a marriage expert in Taiwan, said that marriage is maintained by three aspects: love, kindness, harmony. Marriage over the people know, not what the couple can not get along a little contradictory, do not have a husband (or wife) can fully accept each other's shortcomings. So, the couple rely on to maintain the marriage, maintain attachment to each other? By sex.
I was married four years ago, had just turned 28 years old, can be considered later marriage now! Strong, and work easily and naturally demand more sex, got married wife to meet my request, I have come to realize every sexual life of happiness and satisfaction. His wife back to her parents by chance I live a day or two wildly like a lost soul sleepless nights, endless thoughts. During this happy day, I do not know what crying, what is tired, covered with the endless enthusiasm, proactive work, family dedication and due diligence. Some within his wife's character, quick tempers, poor homemaker, selfish. As long as a matter of principle, I will not with her theory, I feel that these shortcomings can tolerance and understanding.
A year later, his wife was pregnant, her sexual passion smaller, lack of interest and initiative, I can not be met, and my heart have failed to understand the troubles and anxiety, coupled with his wife's character, and we often quarrel. With the child's birth, feeding the hard work, his wife, most of the mind operating in the children, she is cold sex, I have a lot of complaints and frustration. To be hard to toe the line, in addition to not feed her child, my whole family taking all the housework, let his wife get involved, the purpose is to get the evening's sexual gratification. I try to coax her happy, sometimes she's obviously wrong, I can not with her theory. When his wife will be happy to understand me, but I found her doing more reluctant, and even once she was asleep in sex in, I was disappointed but also very sad. If she a bad mood, I would work is futile, she did not take me seriously.
After six months of maternity leave, his wife to work. Crowded bus every day, morning to evening. I also need to work because of new units, new units far from home, work very hard. But I think sex is hard, busy life, a good regulator, we are so tired every day, in addition to sex, what else can enjoy it? This may be what the wife does not see. Come home, she hurried bath, wrapped in a long pajamas down on the bed asleep. I hope she will understand my point, do not make me feel tired of work and return home without a little fun. She said: "If you really tired, but also what married life, you feel good to sleep." We do disagree, to each other, and then complain about each other, quarreling.
Wife, I know that sex does not meet very happy. I love fishing, fishing tackle imports she bought for me, comforted me: "you play it, do not want that old thing." My friends and I play mahjong at night, his wife, never against, as long as the night, "Do not disturb my sleep "(his wife's words), I do all right. I gradually lost interest in sex, sometimes reluctantly engaged, never once feeling. Resulting loss of confidence in life, negative emotions on the job. I used to take the initiative to do more housework, everything rushing to dry, now old and feel tired, do not mind, all of a sudden there are a lot of old feelings.
We had a very long time without sex. Sex couples may not be an objective look at each other, and slowly I am very concerned about the shortcomings of his wife, before I was able to tolerate many of the problems now I can not tolerate, that her selfish, not gentle, not caring who . More and more family conflict, quarrel escalated. We hurt each other viciously, mercilessly. I became bad-tempered, often made undetermined, seized on the issue, feel regret and upset afterwards, but got into a fight when he can not help.
According to my observation, many couples got married when they are loving each other, because the young men and women on the other side are full of curiosity and sexual attraction, as time goes by, some good coordination sex couples, both obtained from the intimacy many of those warm, passion for life and work. But many couples just like us, lost sexual pleasure, it is mind each other's shortcomings.
Middle-aged couples in the material life has been greatly improved, I feel that I expect nothing else, I hope that accompanied the woman to fulfill his obligation to his wife. Family life is like a machine, sex is the oil, no sex, no matter how good the machine will stall, talk about the quality of marriage?
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女性喜歡馬拉松式調情
在求偶過程中，配偶選定之後所進的旨在導致交配的行為。又稱挑情行為。有人亦將調情行為歸屬於求偶行為之中。調情不是調戲， 後者是一種不嚴肅的性行為。調情亦非指配偶之外的性關係，因為這種關係往往並不完成性交。配偶之間通過調情使雙方情感得到進一步 的交流和發展，從生理及心理兩個方面為交配準備條件，因而是交配前必不可少的過程。哺乳動物普遍存在調情行為。
雌雄動物在交配之前的互相追逐、摩擦、輕咬、舐生殖器等均屬此類行為。人類的調情行為基本上與哺乳動物相似，只是增加了語言 形式的交流。
求偶過程中，情意綿綿的目光交流以及交談這種純心理的刺激足以撩動男女雙方產生明顯的生理反應。心率加速、瞳孔散大，以及生 殖器官分泌物的增多，反映了在身體上更親暱接觸的要求，並為這種接觸創造必要的條件。緊接著便是調情行為的兩種主要形式：吻與撫 摸。
接吻指嘴與嘴的接觸，在配偶間那種長時間熾熱的吻是濕潤而富有感情的，與正規場合禮節性乾澀吻完全不同。接吻中混有3種感覺 ：觸覺、味覺和嗅覺，可同時嗅到皮膚和呼吸的氣味。在這種接吻時，舌頭的活動是不可缺少的，對接吻形式的變化起首要作用。同時接 吻中還有牙齒的參加。在一邊串或輕柔或尖利的相互親咬中，男女無論是主動一方還是被動一方都會得到一種極鮮明的性快感。即使有時 會被「情咬」造成輕度傷痛，仍不能認為這是殘忍或變態，而是性愛的自然流露。不僅嘴對嘴的性感接吻，親吻身體的各個部位在此階段 也是適宜可行的。在嘴對嘴的接吻中，主動觸覺和被動觸覺是相互交融在一起的，而對身體的親吻，會使親吻者和被親吻者得到兩種不同 的快感。這兩種快感都可以導致性興奮。
觸摸和相互撫弄可以從使用指尖的輕輕撫摸、搔癢到使用手指和手掌的揉捏和擠壓，而以輕柔的觸摸最具性感。在調情時，觸摸者及 被觸摸者都應有心理準備，必須在意識中完全排除反感與抵觸。除了一般的性感區之外，掌握對方所喜歡被撫弄的特殊部位也很重要，因 為瞭解和感受到自己所引起的刺激和歡愉的本身就是一種刺激和歡愉。這樣，在互相尊重、互相照顧的氣氛下，逐漸觸摸至對性器官的部 位。
調情行為對女性的作用尤為重要，以至有人總結為：婦女不喜歡馬拉松式的性交，而喜歡馬拉松式的調情。在調情時，應當讓女人充 當主動者而不能永遠是被動角色，只要女人克服自己心理上的阻礙，是不難做到的。這樣，男女雙方都能達到滿意的境界。
完事不可馬馬虎虎
最後的溫存絕不是可有可無的，它也是使性生活達到完美的不可缺少的一環。如果處理得好，就可以使雙方的滿足感進一步昇華，變 成一種刻骨銘心的彼此感激之情。
交合結束了，但從性高潮遺留下來的一個問題卻沒有解決，這個問題就是我們所說的男女的快感發展趨向不一致，男的向下，女的向 上。可以這樣說，男人是帶著輕鬆感進入性生活的最後一個階段的，而女人卻久久不能平靜下來。有一位妻子在談到這方面的苦惱時說， 每次過性生活時，丈夫一射完精就睡著了，她只好望著天花板數數，常常要數到上千位數才能入睡。事後的溫存絕不是可有可無的，它也 是使性生活達到完美的不可缺少的一環。如果處理得好，就可以使雙方的滿足感進一步昇華，變成一種刻骨銘心的彼此感激情意。如果處 理得不好，或者完全予以忽視，就會使在性生活中產生的興奮和快感煙消雲散，只剩下懊惱、遺憾和不滿足。
事後溫存對於妻子是極為重要的，然而很多男人卻不懂得這個道理。據國外有人調查，性生活結束後，有32%的男人馬上躺下調整 呼吸或點火吸煙； 17% 的男子很快就沉入夢鄉；14%的男子去上廁所；9%的男子馬上去淋浴； 6% 的男子去找東西吃或找飲料；2%的男子則開始再一次性交。在以上幾種情況中，除了上廁所不好克制之外，其他幾種做法全都可以為了 你的愛侶而改變，性交後感到疲勞、口渴、飢餓，這些都是正常現象，但這些感覺並不會是很強烈的，稍加抑制就可以克服。如果你不想 抑制的話，那就說明你對妻子的感情有問題。自覺或不自覺地忽視妻子感情需要的男子，都應該記住俄國著名文學家車爾尼雪夫斯基的話 ：「愛一個人意味著什麼呢？ 意味著為他的幸福而高興，為使他能夠更幸福而去做需要做的一切，並從這當中得到快樂。」為了你心愛的妻子，男子在射精後不要急於 起身。這時候男性通常還保持著足夠的勃起，可以趁這個機會再進行幾次運動。 這種運動應該是緩慢的，幅度不要太大，要讓妻子既能體會到快感，又能體會到你的良苦用心。起身時，夫妻要繼續擁抱一段時間，並進 行一些撫摸，愛撫階段裡的動作大都可以拿到這時來運用，只是在力度上要輕柔一些。兩個人可以小聲交談，表示溫存和愛意。談話的內 容最好不要涉及到性，尤其不要涉及到剛剛發生過的事情。這樣做可以把妻子的注意力轉開，從生理滿足逐漸過度到心理滿足。愛撫的動 作逐漸減少，最後終於停止了，困意使眼皮變得沉重起來。由於肉體和精神都經歷了從緊張到緩和的劇烈，因而必然產生睏倦，過完性生 活之後一般睡覺都很香，頭一個感到睏倦的是男子，頭一個睡著的也是男子。對妻子有著深厚感情的丈夫應該注意改變這種狀況。巴爾扎 克說過：「丈夫永遠無權先睡。」弗朗克也有類似的說法：「誰不讓愛妻先睡，誰就不曉得生活是多麼美好。」丈夫應該克制住自己的睡 意，讓她先入睡。還要注意在她熟睡之前輕易不要活動，免得把她驚醒。丈夫不僅要後睡，還要先醒。讓妻子眼睛一睜開，就看到你的笑 臉，喚起她對昨晚性生活的回憶，為下一次和諧的性生活埋了「愛的種子」。
還有一些因素可能對事後溫存造成破壞。比如，性生活後雙方的某些部位會變得潮濕起來，陰道分泌物或精液還有可能流到床單上。 這種情況的確使人感到不舒服。所以，有不少夫婦結束後馬上起身去沖洗，或者擦床單，換床單。這種事情雖然小，但變化很突然，一下 子就使人的情緒完全變樣了，幹完這些事情再恢復愛撫，雙方都會感到很彆扭。這種不愉快現象完全可以防 止。只要在性生活前準備好一個小墊子和衛生巾，這些問題就可以解決了。這種準備工作往往由妻子來做，而且會做得不知不覺。
溫存是性生活這支美妙樂曲的最後一個樂章，它雖然不像高潮階段那樣，高亢響亮，但卻有著悠遠深長的餘音，體驗起來自是別有一 番韻昧。如果連這個樂章都能演奏得很出色，那麼整個性生活過程就一定會是盡善盡美的。
Through energy savings and gentle, we will gradually expand the pleasure of capacity, this way, we can have happier, more satisfying orgasm experience.
When we first gently and then this energy to improve it, we open up our body is the ability to enjoy pleasure. I have done a similar experiment this situation.
I have a friend who opened a tyranny pain clinic, chronic pain patients to relieve the pain, the doctor will insert the appropriate time to needle the patient's body through the needle to a certain amount of current delivered to the patient's body after an hour , the current will suddenly increase the amount, if electric current is slowly increased, then the human body can withstand the endless amount of current will make you wonder. Although I have not experienced the pain of this chronic pain, but I am curious to experience the feeling of this treatment.
They needle into my arm, then slowly increase the amount of current, until I feel the burning. At this time, I said to indicate the amount of current they seem too high, they will cut the amount of current a little, and keep it in a very comfortable level.
Ten minutes later, a nurse came and immediately doubled the amount of current to increase the strength, although I do not think the same, but that there is no burning feeling.
This is because: first, the amount of current to open to my body can withstand the maximum, and then reduce the amount of current a little and lasted ten minutes, ten minutes this time to adjust my body can do, so I accept greater amount of current. In ten minutes, my body can easily withstand twice the amount of current, this is really surprised me!
Then after ten minutes, the amount of current will increase. An hour later, I can withstand six times the amount of current, and there is no point burning or numbness. Slow to adapt to the increase in the amount of current through, my body can withstand more than six times the amount of current, which is a very normal body reaction.
The next day, I returned to this clinic to continue my current experiment. At first, I was beginning to bear with the same amount of current yesterday, but then, so I decided not to ten minutes, but immediately doubled the amount of current to enhance the results, I immediately felt burning endless. I finally understand, just give some time to do our bodies have the ability to adapt and withstand greater amount of current.
Similarly, in the process of sex, if we can take the time to energy savings, energy savings and then gentle energy, then we will increase the ability to feel. After this energy savings and gentle, our pleasure would be easy to expand, this way, we can have more happiness and greater satisfaction.
When you are willing to take the time to slow the accumulation of pleasure, you will experience a complete orgasm. But if you an exciting climax on the rampage fast, you only have to meet the genitals, and can not get a glimpse into the dazzling majestic temple of sex.
狼虎之年很「性」福
幾千年來，文學、歷史、社會是以男性為主，在性方面，亦鮮少以關懷女性為中心的記載。男人自幼就被訓練成戰士，要在各種場合 環境中競爭，以致於戰場上的作戰精神，也常被帶到男女性關係上。而在床上的表現也被當作男性角色評估的要件。當在床上一切順利時 ，洋洋得意，喜形於色。但若有不順心時，則如喪考妣，雖然自己的不行只有性伴侶才知道，自己對男人的角色也會失去信心。男人在進 入中年後，床上性的表現是漸不如前，於是有些人就把責任推給女性，說是中年女性為「狼虎之年」，對性的需求增加，以致於自己會招 架不住。
因科技文明的進步，工業革命後，社會資源的生產方式有了改善，需要男性提供勞力的比重降低，女性在社會上也漸漸受到需要和重 視。在男女關係上，因避孕藥、保險套的問世，性行為可以不再有懷孕的擔心，於是女性自我期許增進，對男女彼此角色也漸尋求調整。 那「狼虎之年」之說又如何？三十如狼，四十如虎，甚至有過五十如金錢豹的講法。
此說或有對女性不敬之意，但從另一角度，若男人的妻子真的在三、四十歲後，對性生活更有興趣，也更有心得，則這位先生應是獲 得嘉許與鼓勵的。除非是婚姻外的性生活過多，回家無力對太太交差。在臨床上，無論男女患者，對性方面，聽到的一定是抱怨多於喜樂 ，因為性生活美滿的佳偶，是不會來告訴醫師。但不論在就診，在電話線上，常聽到的是：「我快五十歲了，對性生活還是沒興趣，先生 也是一直強迫我做」。一位三十歲不到的婦人，抱怨婚後的性生活；先生的粗魯，還有性病。也有三十多歲的男性說：我有很久沒有和太 太在一起了。
性愛是要學習的，男女雙方皆是如此，男性從只為解決自己性衝動開始，到學會觀察女性的反應，進而尊重對方，關心對方的感受， 引導女性進入有愉快的高潮。中國古時房中術，對女性性高潮之觀察及描述，比現代性學大師馬斯特夫婦的報告還要詳盡生動。而女性則 漸漸瞭解自己各部位器官對性的感受，心理上對性的享受，雙方也能就自己的感受、喜惡，彼此溝通，如此雙方才能互相配合，共享性愛 之樂。
所以在正常的狀況下，女性到了三十歲以後，若能體會到性愛的快感，那她的先生，實在是應獲得讚賞的，而且也會有回報。此何以 說？因為男性在年輕時，「性」力旺盛，閉著眼睛都可以橫衝直撞，一晚數次也可以。但到了中老年後，性能力漸失，此時對方的鼓勵和 期許就非常重要了，如果沒有老伴的配合，則一般男性的性生活大多會提前結束。
文化進展的過程，女性在社會上扮演的角色，日漸多樣化，也日趨重要，在兩性的角色也有所改變。在調整雙方關係的過程，唯有彼 此尊重，共同成長，才會有更和諧的關係，更親密的性生活。縱使有「狼虎」之言又何妨，只要倆人心中有微笑就好。
何時何地不宜有性生活？
一、不要帶病過性生活。正患有某些嚴重器質性疾病，且醫生已囑咐不能過性生活者，不可勉強過性生活；身患結核病又具傳染性， 也應避免性交；尤其是患有某種性病，更不可過性生活。帶病過性生活，不僅自己受害，而且還會傳給愛人，實應避免。
二、不要疲勞性交。性生活要消耗一定的體力和精力，精神或身體疲憊時過性生活往往達不到高潮，收不到雙方滿意的效果。特別是 勞累後立即過性生活，會損害健康。
三、不要心情不快勉強從事。有的夫妻在一方情緒不佳時勉強過性生活，不僅得不到性生活的和諧，還會使情緒不佳的一方產生反感 。如反覆發生，會導致女方的性冷淡或男方的陽萎。
四、不要經期過性生活。女方月經期間，子宮頸口開放，這時性交極易感染，導致子宮或附件發炎。
五、不要酒後性交。一些人習慣酒後房事，有人甚至認為酒後過性生活會"提高質量"。其實，酒後尤其是大量飲用烈性酒後，反而 會導致男方陰莖勃起不堅或早洩，妨礙性生活和諧；而且酒後受孕會危及胎兒。
六、不要不講衛生。在污垢、雜亂不堪的環境裡過性生活，會影響男女雙方精神狀態，干擾性生活的成功；如性器官不衛生，還會給 對方的健康構成威脅，將細菌等病原體帶入對方體內，損害對方的健康。相反，整潔、賞心悅目的環境及性交前清洗下身，不僅有益於雙 方的健康，還有助於性生活和諧、美滿。
七、不要男尊女卑思想作祟。在性生活中，男方為所欲為，不聽或不尊重女方的自尊心，不僅破壞夫妻感情，還會使女方逐漸產生厭 惡感，最終導致性冷淡，進而引起夫妻關係破裂。
八、不要準備不充分，匆忙而就。有的人不懂得女性生理特殊性點，不做好準備工作就急於性交，或因時間倉促，匆匆而就，草率收 兵。這些做法都不能使女方達到性高潮，不但不會對性生活產生興趣，反而帶來痛苦，是女子產生性冷淡的主要原因。
九、不要飽食或飢餓性交。因飽食使胃腸道充盈並充血，大腦及全身其他器官的血液相對供應不足，故不宜在剛剛吃完飯後就過性生 活；相反，飢腸轆轆，人的體力下降，精力不充沛，此時過性生活，往往也不易達到滿意的效果。
十、不要精神過度緊張或羞怯。多見於新婚夫婦。由於精神極度緊張或過於羞怯，易引起男方的早洩，或女方性交時疼痛，影響性快 感。要盡量保持輕鬆、愉快的心情，女方也不必為此感到羞怯，應從容大方，積極主動地與丈夫密切配合，才會使性生活過得和諧、盡意 、美滿。
十一、不要浴後房事。浴後立即過性生活，會使血液循環平穩失調，影響身體健康。
十二、不要產後房事。如果在產後過早地進行性生活，很容易造成子宮復舊不良和子宮出血。
十三、不要"五更色"。"五更色"是指黎明前過性生活。因為雙方都得不到休息，使機體的平衡失調，降低抵抗力；也會因過度疲 勞而影響工作和學習效率。
